Grandmom Workman grew up in the mountain hollers* of West Virginia. Her dad was a coal miner, as were most of the men in her family. Most of them would go on to die of black lung – a tragic but common outcome for this kind of employment. There’s a little hilltop cemetery full of crooked gravestones that bears witness to this once numerous clan of hillbillies, though most of the Workmans have now either died or left those mountains.
When she was a young woman, my grandmom fell in love with my poppop, a blue-collar man from Philly who was in the Air Force. After a quick marriage and a brief stint in Myrtle Beach, they moved back to the Philadelphia area, where they soon bought the house they would live in until their deaths, just a few years ago.
As the saying goes, you can take the girl out of the holler, but you can’t take the holler out of the girl. Grandmom remained hillbilly to the core until her dying day, despite the comfortable suburban lifestyle Poppop’s trucking career provided. There was no evidence that my Poppop’s strong Philly accent or that of all her neighbors ever made so much as a dent on grandma’s West Virginia way of speaking. No, she never lost her accent or mannerisms. I grew up being called a “sweet patooty” and hearing farts referred to as “shootin’ bunny rabbits.”
She also never lost her ability to sing the hymns she learned as a girl in the little Pentecostal church her family went to – even after she developed severe dementia.
After my family moved to Central Asia, we would attempt video calls with Grandmom and Poppop. We first noticed that she started forgetting that different members of her family were no longer living. Then, she started forgetting our kids’ names and faces. Eventually, she struggled to remember the names of even her grandkids that she had known for decades, including my name. Through all of this, as Grandmom lost more and more of her mental clarity and physical function, Poppop’s steady gentleness with her was a remarkable thing to behold.
In time, it became challenging to know how to hold a conversation with Grandmom. However, I could always get her to remember and talk clearly about her childhood, even when the dementia seemed to be worse than ever. Often, she would speak of the hymns she sang as a girl. Her favorite was Rock of Ages, “Rock of ayges, cleft for mee… Let me haaad maaself in theeee…” I was amazed at the shift out of mental fog and into crisp clarity that would seem to take place when I would nudge Grandmom to focus on this season of her life and the songs that she had learned at such a young age.
This was doubly encouraging to me because my grandmom had always shut down spiritual conversation. Any mention of God, the Bible, sin, or the gospel would unleash a polite but impenetrable barrage of words declaring Grandmom’s confidence in her own goodness. In all the years before the dementia started, there was no evidence that she ever humbled herself to admit that she was a sinner in need of forgiveness. This was true even though her own son, my dad, had died while proclaiming this message as a missionary in Melanesia.
My dad’s death, of course, devastated his parents. Poppop seems to have eventually come to faith, a changed man, in the years following. But Grandmom was immovable. No conversational tactic could get through her defenses.
However, once she developed dementia, I noticed a willingness to talk about and dwell on hymns, like Rock of Ages, that did contain explicit gospel messages – “Let the water and the blood; from thy wounded side which flowed; be of sin the double cure; wash from sin and make me pure.“
Tragically, I do not think that my grandmom ever believed in Jesus. But if there is any hope, it would be found in the fact that hymns like Rock of Ages were a major part of the soundtrack of her final days. When all else was fading away, gospel truths put to a catchy melody and a West Virginia twang were on her mind and on her tongue. Perhaps they found their way into her heart and soul as well. She passed away in 2022.
My grandmom’s story taught me about the power of music for remembering and reproducing truth. The songs that Grandmom learned as a barefoot girl in a little mountain church stayed with her – for eight decades. They stayed with her when almost everything else had been forgotten.
This makes me want to double down on teaching our own children good, gospel-explicit songs. Apparently, they can remain with them until the end, even if they do not embrace the faith of their parents. God has somehow created music to be a thing strong enough that it can hold its own in the labyrinth corridors of memory, even against decades of unbelief, and even against the most formidable mental illness. A woman might forget the names of her own children and grandchildren. But she will remember the words of the songs of her childhood.
This season of ministry in Central Asia has brought with it an unexpected emphasis on local worship music. I suddenly find myself with four eager local guitar students (some of whom are former guerrilla fighters), with other local believers writing new songs and poems and asking for help with them, and with requests from many quarters for local-language songs that are richer and deeper and more congregational. An area of our ministry that has, until now, largely gotten the leftovers now calls for more proactive emphasis. Local believers need to be raised up who can write local songs, hymns, and spiritual songs for the church and then go on to lead and play them skillfully.
Because of my grandmom, I know the potential impact of this kind of work. Through good songs, local believers can unstoppably retain and reproduce truths from God’s word as they go about their daily work in the bazar, if they end up in prison without a Bible, or even if they someday lose their minds and memories.
How amazing is this gift of music that God has given to us? And what a comfort as well. Even in old age, his truth can remain fixed in our minds, and that, by the power of a simple tune.
‘So even to old age and gray hairs, O God, do not forsake me, until I proclaim your might to another generation, your power to all those to come. ‘
-Psalm 71:18
*holler is a Appalachian form of hollow, a small valley.
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Entrusted to the Dirt 
This was an encouragement to me- I come from some West Virginia hillbillies who also like to shut down spiritual conversations. I pray that their hearts do not grow cold and that those truths heard from childhood speak to them until the end. Thank you for sharing.
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